Exist Better

When you inhabit a different "version of reality," living with beliefs, experiences, and perspectives that no one around you shares, you are vulnerable to living in a gaslighting loop, continuously experiencing life as one big denial of YOU. Many who are educated in psychology assume that the most dangerous aspect of this pattern is other people: gaslighters. And while some people do indeed play that antagonistic role, by far the most dangerous aspect of the gaslighting wound is that you reject and deny YOUR OWN reality. This creates an ongoing (often subconscious) crisis. Wondering if this livestream will be relevant for you? Ask yourself: - Am I frequently second-guessing myself? - Am I easily talked out of my beliefs, and even the experiences I've had? (bonus points if these were traumatic experiences) - Do I feel like there is simply not enough "room" for who I am in most social environments, so I either avoid people altogether or chronically people-please/abandon my needs? - Do I often feel invisible, or like I imagine things/overreact in the eyes of other people? - Do I chronically default to what others think I should do, say, or choose? - Do I feel like I lack an identity, or like I have extreme difficulty making choices or standing by my preferences? - Do I feel easily drowned out in a crowd of people, as if the real me stops existing until I'm alone again? When we're dealing with gaslighting, we are inherently dealing with a boundary issue - to be continuously 'gaslit' is to have a personal boundary overstepped (either by yourself or others). ------------ Newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/3eb3c71c6a70/eb Shadow Workbook: https://www.existbetter.co/how-to-do-shadow-work Sessions: https://www.existbetter.co/sessions Blog: https://www.existbetter.co/blog School of Self: https://existbetter.teachable.com/ Buy Me a Coffee: https://ko-fi.com/existbetter Watch my 2 previous videos on gaslighting for more info! - Gaslighting: Were you Talked out of Trusting your Intuition? - Stop Waiting for Them to Change

Making yourself choose between the lesser of the two evils creates a self-trust crisis. Making this choice creates an internal split between the You who knows your choice is bs, and the You who made the choice. Here's why that matters. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/3eb3c71c6a70/eb Shadow Workbook: https://www.existbetter.co/how-to-do-shadow-work Sessions: https://www.existbetter.co/sessions Blog: https://www.existbetter.co/blog School of Self: https://existbetter.teachable.com/ Buy Me a Coffee: https://ko-fi.com/existbetter

5:05 - The 4 nervous system responses explained 20:00 - How the responses play out symbolically 21:12 - Why you need to "Always be terrified" 25:18 - Do we each have a dominant response? 29:10 - Obstacles to self-trust 31:57 - How to develop self trust -------------------------- Newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/3eb3c71c6a70/eb Shadow Workbook: https://www.existbetter.co/how-to-do-shadow-work Sessions: https://www.existbetter.co/sessions Blog: https://www.existbetter.co/blog School of Self: https://existbetter.teachable.com/ Buy Me a Coffee: https://ko-fi.com/existbetter -------------------------- Do you feel like you can trust yourself to make the best decisions? Take the right actions? Do you feel capable of creating the life you want? If you're like most people, the answer is, 'ehh... not exactly.' Or, 'yes! I just have uhh... so many outside forces standing in my way!' Why is this? If the learning curve we went through early in life really worked, wouldn't we feel capable and confident in adulthood? Why do so many of us walk around feeling like we need gurus, friends, family, government, god, the media, or any other entity telling us what to do and what to believe? Why is self-help a $10 billion industry that grows every year along with depression & anxiety rates? We have a self-trust crisis on our hands. We don't feel like we can safely listen to ourselves, and to make matters more confusing, we often can't distinguish between our Selves and our conditioning/trauma. We let certain parts of ourselves steer the ship constantly, while we lock others away, deeming them too frightening, useless, or shameful to expose. This results in a limited persona - We cannot access our full selves or explore our full potential. We play out one-sided roles and assume our lives are pre-determined. We settle. How do we resolve this problem so we can start living as our fullest expression, being ourselves, doing what we REALLY want, and evolving instead of hiding in our 'safe' routines? In this livestream, we'll discuss the oft-ignored root causes of low self-trust (involving social conditioning & the nervous system) and how you as an individual can resolve this pattern of uncertainty once and for all. When we do this for ourselves, we give those around us permission to do the same. THIS is the medicine :)