If you've ever thought, "There's gotta be something better than this," you're absolutely right.
Hey folks. I'm Brianna and I help outsiders who see beyond the bullshit work with their emotional turbulence & live the lives they intended. That means digging up your unique potential and bringing it into reality (as you might've noticed, it's WAY easier said than done).
Like most weirdos who collect stray animals for fun, I never quite found a place to belong. By the time I was in my early 20s I was riddled with anxiety, self-loathing, and a slew of destructive habits that only drove me deeper into depression. I was angry at the world for its dismissal of seemingly everything I valued, and I hungrily sought answers that would explain the point of living.
I studied sociology, psychology, philosophy, and anything that might reveal what was wrong with me, wrong with society, and how to fix it. (I hated myself, but I was no idiot - surely I could figure out the secrets of the universe through relentless Google searching, right?) I learned all kinds of useful things, but one idea seemed to stick, growing louder and louder in my mind. That idea was:
The masses have swallowed the individual.
I was intrigued to find this same thread woven through the work of many great thinkers.
Jung said, "The individual has been robbed of his dignity. He has lost his individuality and become a mere abstract number in the bureau of statistics.”
Emerson said, "Society everywhere is in conspiracy against every one of its members. The virtue in most request is conformity."
Anais Nin said, "I will not adjust myself to the world. I am adjusted to myself."
It seemed like everything from catastrophic wars to people hating Mondays could be traced back to this one rotten root problem: Individuals were not developing. Instead, they were "safely" following the herd, & the herd was headed off a cliff.
I watched people give up on their potential, thoughtlessly neglect other living beings, destroy the environment, & do whatever they were told by authority figures who "knew better" (aka, the evil overlords, the elites, the illuminati, whatever I honestly don't care, stop messaging me about it).
But to a larger extent, no one is steering the ship. Instead, most people have a horrifying case of the bystander effect, always assuming someone else will do something to fix things. I call this 'little ol me syndrome,' because it's the conditioning that stops you from doing anything worth doing.
All of this is straight out of a dystopian novel, but most people don't seem to notice the absurdity.
Long story short, I thought I might as well dedicate my life to something that mattered: Slaying my own inner bystander, standing up, and doing something. Anything authentic. I started writing in college and after many iterations of me rambling about my distaste for society, Exist Better grew up into what it is today.
What I've come to discover is that this platform is about dignity - regaining what was lost when we handed our real selves over to conformity. I've come to understand that a person can't be dignified unless he can be authentic - can't respect himself unless he is able to be himself. That is the work we do here.
I'll leave you with my two favorite self-reliance quotes:
"The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion." - Albert Camus
"A person should not believe in an -ism, he should believe in himself." - Ferris Bueller
If you're interested in learning more about how to use depth psychology to change your life, check out the offerings in the top menu. I'm also happy to chat if you're not sure where to begin:
Email firstname.lastname@example.org (no I don't want to date you or listen to your rant about the illuminati - serious inquiries only folks).